Happy Wednesday everyone! February is now officially over. The month that focuses on all things chocolate, red, and heart shaped has come to an end. So what’s next? Does this mean that we all go back to focusing on work or school instead of love? I’m here to tell you about why that would be a mistake.
I’ll go ahead and say how I personally feel about love. It is by far the greatest achievement that we all reach for in life. The love of family, love of friends, and the love of a romantic partner is what helps us make other achievements throughout life. It’s what pushes us to do better, to be better.
The love of family seems simple because we often feel that it is our right to be loved and give love to family members. Unfortunately, all relationships can be hard. Maybe one of the mistakes that we all make at times is feeling as though we don’t have to put as much effort into family relationships because they should just come naturally? Like any other relationship, family dynamics can be controversial at times, leaving us feeling as though we don’t belong. Maybe even leaving us feeling like we are crazy for how we feel. Sometimes work has to be put forth in order to successfully communicate and get through difficult times. I acknowledge that not all family relationships are healthy and shouldn’t be held onto forever, but if they can be safely and healthfully salvaged then why not give it a try?
When it’s right though, family is one of the most amazing parts of life. They have been there through it all. They’ve seen where you started and where you’ve ended up. Hopefully they have also been a support system during all of the transitions you have had. I have been fortunate enough to have a family that I have always been close with. We are pretty honest and tough on each other at times, but in the end it just makes us stronger as a unit. Plus, we are all super sarcastic with one another and that just makes family events and holidays more fun!
Let us not discount the people who may not be blood relatives, but have been there through it all. The people who have stepped up to play the role of mother, father, brother, sister, etc. for those who truly needed it. The ones who were not born into that role, but placed themselves there by choice. Those are the family members that you want by your side in the long run, so don’t take advantage of them!
The love of friends can be difficult for some, and easy for others. Difficult if you don’t surround yourself with true friends. We all want friends who can tell the difference between subtle changes in our personalities. Friends who remember the little details about us and aren’t afraid to use those details to make us happier. Loving friends is so unbelievably important because they are the people that feel like family, but aren’t blood. The ones who can relate to what we are going through, or at least try to understand where we are coming from.
Most importantly, friends bring joy into our lives. They laugh with us (sometimes at us) in the moments when we truly need to laugh. They don’t judge us when we do dumb things. Heck, they were probably the ones who egged you on into doing something ridiculous! Lastly, they are the ones who grow with you. Friends love you and you love them because they don’t just sit by and watch life pass by. Instead, we live life TOGETHER. We laugh together, grow together, make insane life decisions together. Why?! I’ll tell you. It’s because when we find a friendship that is meant to last forever, we strive to end up sitting next to one another on our front porch rocking chairs at the age of 80. So let your friends know that you’re thinking about them and how much they mean to you throughout all months of the year!
Finally, the love of a romantic partner seems to be the most immediate thought that pops into our minds when the concept of love comes into conversation. This is one of the most unique relationships because it combines all three components together. When you find the person you want to spend life with, they become all three to you, right? They become your own personal piece of romance, best friend, and eventually, family. That doesn’t mean that we don’t have a place for other family and friends though. It’s just that romantic love is different. It just is! Obviously, we don’t go around romantically cuddling or kissing our family and friends. If you do…I don’t really know what advice to provide you with on that.
Romantic love is different because you have seen something different within someone. Something special that makes you feel a stronger connection with them than with others that you have met before. Love is amazing because it is like having a partner in crime at every twist and turn of life. It is someone that truly takes the time to try and understand where you are coming from. They don’t want to just have a fight and move on from whatever the issue was without even discussing it first, because they WANT to fix it. They WANT to be better for you, and you for them. Romantic love is a two way street because it takes patience and understanding on BOTH sides.
During nursing school, I had some friends who were in serious relationships. Due to crazy schedules, they were also not able to see their significant others every weekend. Heck, some of them went months without seeing them. Do you think that was easy? No way. They did it though because they looked past the present into what they knew the future could become. That is love. Never blind to our surroundings, but always willing to push past the difficult together in the hopes of achieving something better.
So my advice for March and on is rather simple. Do not forget love. Do not push away love. Do not be afraid to let the people in your life know that you care about them, and that you are willing to work with them through the good and bad. All of these sound so simple, right? How could someone just forget about love? It can be easier than it sounds, so please don’t let the struggles of life cause you to forget about what truly matters.
For all of the above mentioned reasons, and so many more that I didn’t mention, don’t leave love in February. Carry it with you into March and beyond. Carry it with you always! It simply isn’t meant to only be a focus during one month of the year. It deserves more than that.
To close out this discussion on life and love, I would like to share a quote by one of my favorite authors as a child. “We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” -Dr. Seuss